Frequently Asked Questions
What can I expect during a session and what's expected of me?
The therapy begins with several minutes of slow, tantalizing touch about your upper and lower body before seamlessly transitioning to more pleasure-sensitive areas.
Sessions do not include any type of muscle manipulation or deep tissue massage, but rather, soft meditative touch. Throughout the hour, you'll experience a medley of rhythms, pressures and intensities edging you closer and closer to the ultimate state of bliss.
You're expected to be 21 or older. Other than that, nothing. Just turn off your mind, lay back and open yourself up to a liberating, transformative experience. The hour is all about you.
Why would I want to experience sensual touch therapy? What are the benefits of this treatment?
Sensual touch therapy appeals to body-positive women of all ages for a wide range of reasons. Among them:
It can help satisfy your natural longing for human touch if:
Sensual therapeutic touch can also:
Additionally, it can:
Where are you located?
I operate out of a residential luxury doorman building in a safe, centrally located part of Manhattan. It is not a spa or commercial setting.
How long are sessions?
A standard session is 60 minutes. Sessions can be intense, and guests generally find that they've "had enough of a good thing" after an hour. If you'd like a longer or shorter session, we can discuss.
Why do you request guests' age, height, weight and photos?
Before meeting guests, I like to get a sense of who they are on both a personal and physical level in order to provide more tailored service. I request some basic information upfront to also ensure that the person who shows up is indeed the person who contacted me. G-rated pics are fine, but send what you wish.
Is my information private and confidential?
Yes. Protecting your privacy is taken extremely seriously, and I am
committed to the highest levels of confidentiality, discretion and trust. It's kind of like Vegas. My ironclad policy is that whatever happens here, stays here. Any and all communication between us, whether online or in-person, is held in strict confidence. Always.
How can I be assured this is safe?
Safety is, of course, a top priority -- mine as well as yours. That's why I insist we exchange a few emails and speak briefly by phone prior to confirming appointments.
If you're so inclined, you can tell a friend where you're going and give them my phone number. You're also free to text or call someone while you're here.
The numerous testimonials on my blog combined with publications who have fact-checked and interviewed both me and my guests (see stories below) should also ease your concerns. Plus, I'm located in a luxury doorman building in a safe and vibrant part of Manhattan.
A word to the wise: Do your homework. A few "Johnny-come-latelies" here in NYC have been masquerading as sensual bodyworkers for women. Google their phone numbers and email addresses. Do they have verified media coverage? Do they provide numerous and authentic testimonials? If your gut tells you something's not right, listen to it.
Where can I find out more about you and what you do?
New York Magazine - The Cut (March, 2018) - Three of Doctor M's regulars dish about their sessions and why they see him.
Marie Claire (November, 2014) – The author reveals the best kept secret in New York among women in the know.
AlterNet (October, 2017) – Women seeking "extras" seek out the "Doctor" with the magic touch.
Nerve and Refinery29 (March, 2013) – Originally published in nerve.com (recently closed), this interview with Doctor M was also syndicated in Refinery29.
How do you keep things tidy?
High standards of cleanliness and hygiene are extremely important to me, and as such, I wash my hands with both soap and Purell several times throughout each session.
My massage table is covered with single-use, disposable sheets. My work space is kept clean and orderly.
If vibrational instruments are used, rest assured they've been washed and sanitized as well.
You will be wiped down with a fresh warm washcloth at the conclusion of the session.
Your guest testimonials sound awesome. Can you guarantee my experience will be the same?
Every woman's body is different, and responds differently to touch. While most guests leave with a big happy smile, it would be presumptuous of me to guarantee a toe-curling grand finale with fireworks 100% of the time. I can, however, guarantee a delightful and memorable experience that you can one day tell your grandchildren about. Uh, maybe not.
Is there a fee?
Her Private Pleasures is a part-time complimentary non-profit pursuit based on a passion for providing pleasure to appreciative guests. Sessions are complimentary. Optional donations appreciated if you feel the service you received warrants it.
How are you dressed during sessions?
In either shorts or sweat pants, and a t-shirt that I don't mind spilling a little massage oil on. If you prefer I'm wearing as little as you are, you may request so.
Do sessions go beyond the use of hands?
Standard therapy is limited to manual touch. Professional grade massaging devices are also available. If you so desire, you may touch me. If you have something more in mind, feel free to ask, as sessions are tailored around your preferences and wishes.
What if I'm shy and feel weird about communicating what I like?
While I feel it's my job to unlock the mysteries of your body within the hour, you'll get the most satisfaction out of your session by letting me know what's working for you. And you don't necessarily need to be verbal. I'm very good at reading body language. And subtle signals like a wiggle or a moan are perfectly fine ways to convey your approval of certain modes of touch, or areas you'd like special attention paid to. All without ever saying a word.
Doctor M, are you a real doctor?
I'm a doctor in the same vein as well-known personalities like Dr. Dre, Dr. J, Dr. Who, Dr. Dolittle, and Dr. Seuss.
Dr. M is just a nickname. Long story.
Who are you? What do you look like?
If you're dreaming of some hunky, tattooed, muscle-bound dude who stepped out of GQ, I'm not him. I'm a regular guy of average height and weight, blessed with hands that are anything but average. White. Youthful-looking late-40s. Athletic and fit. Clean-cut. Dark hair. Hazel eyes. Educated.
Most importantly, I'm warm and welcoming with a calming non-judgemental demeanor that will put you at ease from the moment we meet.
As your guide and facilitator, I consider it a privilege to provide this service, and have deep admiration and respect for any woman who empowers herself to take ownership of her body and soul in this way.
Do you do this fulltime?
No. I am involved in other pursuits and professional endeavors that keep me busy much of the time.
How long have you been providing this service and how many guests have you seen?
I don't keep numbers, but I've been providing sensual bodywork in one form or another for over 10 years, and have seen a steady stream of new and repeat guests throughout that time.
What type of training do you have?
Aside from various seminars and classes in the sensual arts, I am largely self-taught with a longtime passion for this type of giving -- in addition to over 10 years of experience servicing too many guests to count.
If you would feel more comfortable receiving this kind of service from an LMT, the next time you're at Bliss or your neighborhood spa, tell them the type of "special therapy" you'd like.
Let me know how that works out for you ;-)
I know this is last minute, but can you see me right now?
If I happen to be available, yes. But best to schedule a few hours to a few days in advance.
Can I arrange a session for a friend as part of her bachelorette or birthday party festivities?
I'm visiting New York on business / pleasure. Will you come to my hotel?
Maybe. I prefer to provide service at my location as the therapy is best administered on a massage table rather than a bed. But let me know where you're staying and we'll see.
I'm a guy. Can I watch my wife's or girlfriend's therapy session?
No. The service is for women only. No men. No couples. No spectators. If you think this is something your significant other would enjoy, have her contact me herself, and we'll take it from there.
I'm a guy. What's the best advice you can give me if I want to do something like this?
Trim your nails.
Do you have other websites?
I am NOT affiliated with any other sites that have HerPrivatePleasure(s) in their name, including an adult blog on Tumblr.
Please be cautious: From time to time, "knockoff sites" spring up where unscrupulous impostors copy and paste the text of my site into theirs. Unfortunately, that's just the nature of the wild web.
If you email me and the response comes from a domain other than email@example.com, or an email address other than HerPrivatePleasures@yahoo.com, you are dealing with an impostor.
To even consider this is so out of character for me. Why do I find it so intriguing?
If I had a nickel for every time I heard that ...
I just had a session and would like to share my thoughts. How do I post a review?
Reviews and testimonials really help other women considering a session get a sense of what this is all about from the female perspective.
If you'd like to write a few words about your experience, click here and scroll to the bottom of the page. You can be totally anonymous if you so choose.
OK, I'm ready to come! How do I request an appointment?
Review the information on the Request an Appointment page, where you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Availabilities are limited. To increase your chances of consideration, please make sure to include your age, height, weight and photos.. (See why in the FAQ above).
What if I need to cancel an appointment?
If you need to cancel or reschedule, please be considerate of my time and kindly notify me at least 24 hours in advance.
Appointments are officially confirmed once we speak by phone, (usually a few days prior to your session). If, after our confirmation call, it appears you'll be unable to honor your appointment, let me know immediately.
With advance notice, I'll happily reschedule you as soon as possible.
Cancel last minute, and you may get wait-listed for several weeks -- or longer.
Whatever you do, don't be "That Girl." She's the one who doesn't show up at all. (You know who you are. And the karma gods know too).
I'm not quite ready for this, but would like to learn more about my body. Any sites you can recommend?
I requested an appointment. How long until I hear back from you?
It depends. Sometimes within minutes or hours. Other times it may take a few days, or even a week or so.
🔸It's also possible you may not receive a reply at all.
Note: I have a limited number of openings. And due to the high volume of emails I receive, I am regrettably unable to respond to or accommodate every appointment request. Especially requests without the required information. Thank you for your understanding.
Her Private Pleasures Privacy Promise
Her Private Pleasures is 100% committed to your privacy. Any and all communication between us, whether online or in-person, is held in strict confidence. Always. -- Dr. M